Single Woman Wedding?
Saturday, November 21st, 2009 at
4:36 pm
In Sex in the City, Carrie Bradshaw throws herself a wedding shower in order to get refunded for some shoes she lost at a friend’s house. Has anyone ever known of a real single woman who threw herself a wedding shower?
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Filed under: Sex And The City - The Characters
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No, because throwing a shower for yourself is tacky.
Showers can be hosted by bridesmaids, aunts, cousins, coworkers, godmothers, and other assorted friends and family members. They are not hosted by the bride or the mothers.
Sex and the City is television. Television is fantasy, not the way things are done in real life.
If the lines between fantasy and reality are starting to blur for anyone, I suggest that he/she turn off the TV set . . . and seek counseling or therapy.
No, I have never heard of this in real life.
Very few things from “Sex and the City” actually happen.
ETA: I am from New York. I live in Manhattan. I do know that many scenes from Sex and the City were filmed in actual NYC locations. What I meant was that Carrie Bradshaw isn’t a real person and fantasy television characters often do things that people in real life wouldn’t do because their real-life friends and family would find it annoying/greedy/weird.
No because that is considered highly improper.
Edit: these tv shows are fiction and the details on them are fiction added for drama/shock value. They are not intended to be taken seriously.
Besides, those who are closest to the hostess who would be attending would know it is a farce since she was not engaged. Therefore no reason to have a shower.
NO i know i would be embaresed, i think it is silly, now it would be a funny practical joke but who would you invite and i think it would just be sill to waste money and time on planning it and such but it is a fun idea.
i think your friends are propblely good enough to give you a gift or your shoes back with out something so elabarrate.
No, but I’ve thought about it. Wasn’t it because the friend made her take off her shoes at a shower and they were subsequently stolen, then the friend got snotty about reimbursing her for the shoes?
It wouldnt work like that in real life. In real life, anyone close enough to come to your shower, would be close enough to know that you had not become engaged recently.
Carrie was just trying to get her shoes back and since she had spents hundred of dollars on the woman – shower gift, wedding gift, baby shower gift, etc. She felt the least the woman could do was pay for the shoes that were stolen from her house. The invitation was her way of getting her point across. She didn’t actually have a single woman wedding.
I personally don’t really see the point of wedding showers PERIOD, but that’s a whole other story…
In any case, in the show, Carrie Bradshaw didn’t actually throw herself a shower, she simply invented a ruse to get her shoes replaced.
I have never heard of someone ACTUALLY throwing themselves a shower…I think that would be seen as tacky and selfish for a couple reasons:
- As I already mentioned, I never thought wedding showers were really that necessary, anyway, so I don’t understand all the whiny questions from brides on here…
- If a wedding shower is being thrown, it should NEVER be hosted by the person for whom it is done!
- What happens when a single woman throws herself a shower…and then 10 years later meets the man (or woman) of her dreams and gets married? I hope she doesn’t have another wedding shower…!
Edit: Despite what wikipedia may or may not say about the episode, Carrie doesn’t actually throw herself a shower. She simply calls up her inconsiderate friend and leaves a message on her machine announcing that she is marrying herself and in which store she’s registered (Manolo Blahnik). She doesn’t send out invitations, she doesn’t throw a shower – it is indeed a ruse to get her friend to replace the shoes she ought to have. I own the series on dvd and have confirmed this!
Edit: It was, indeed, an act making a statement that she was allowed to make her own decisions regarding her money, as a single person – that she should be not forced into marrying and having children. I do think, however, that in general someone shouldn’t need to receive presents from other people in order to validate their own lifestyle choices. In the case of the show, I thought it was warranted, because the friend was denying Carrie what was rightfully hers — but to throw a shower “just because?” As long as people aren’t saying “I would give you something, but you don’t deserve it since you’re not married,” I don’t see the need for throwing oneself a fake shower. Kudos to those that do and gain a lot of material satisfaction as a result, though, I guess…
Oh, goodness, if I had a dollar for everytime my friend mentioned that when I spend money on a collectable object for the house and how wasteful that is, when I could be spending money on her kid and grandkids, I would be rich, and I could have Carrie Bradshaw’s life. Then throw in the rest of the friend’s who declare I live in a gift shop…
I am single, I will not raise anyone else’s kids. I was not allowed to marry and have kids, so I spend it on the house, and pretty objects to go in it. I drive a sporty car, and I have a few nice clothes[nothing expensive like Carrie].
I have considered buying a wedding ring to keep people off my back about marriage, I asked another friend if she would give me a picture of her cats to put in my office so people would shut up about me not having a pet.
I never had a wedding, or any of the stuff that comes with it, I bought or inherited[and I earned every bit of that] every item in this house myself, save a few modest gifts from parents and friends.
Don’t think I have not thought of that, having a fake wedding or shower, about the time I get invited to yet another wedding of someone I barely know. And I get so tired of being thought of as the rich honorary aunt, that I could spit. Who is rich? this is a one income household! And I am at the at age where I went to the parents wedding, the kid’s wedding, now I am supporting the grandkids. In 9 years, the oldest grandkid will be 18, and old enough to get knocked up twice by 2 different boyfriends she had to marry just like her mother did.
So people, shut up, I’m single, nobody wanted me, I waited hand and foot on my Mother until it was too late for me. And nobody wants me now. I’m tired of hearing about it, if you are jealous of my life, shut up, and jealous of me, shut up, and if you don’t want me as a friend, shut up and quit calling me.
Next year, I’m giving a big party for myself on my birthday, and everybody who I ever gave a gift to better d— well be there, present in hand. No, it won’t be a shower, just greed and retrobution for the sacrafices I made, without the understanding of my jealous friends, who can’t have a Wedgewood bowl on their table, cause the ill mannered stinky grandkid would knock it off on purpose. And you are all right, you can”t bring the grandkids to my house. So what. Shut up about that, too.
And those of you who answered before I did, I am smart enough to hire or find a fake host for my fake shower. And smart enough to have a fake wedding, too, complete with fake groom and officiant.